A New Club

It seems that for most of my adult life, I’ve tried to figure out what I say to people who are obviously a blended/adopted family. Do I ask them where their child is from? Would that be offensive? I know they know they look different but I was never sure what to say, what to ask.

I’m looking foward to being part of this new club called “adoption.” Every time I see a family who has obviously adopted (and there are many families out there who don’t “look” blended but are!) I try to figure out some way to tell them that we are adopting right now. I felt the same when I was pregnant. I wanted to tell everyone that I was pregnant…and was thrilled when I began to show that pregnancy. That’s how I feel now. We are having our third child. I no longer feel awkward asking questions. For me, I feel that I finally belong in a club that I have always wanted to be a part of.

And that club is exclusive…because I have already seen all the WORK it takes to be part of it. I never in my life imagined how HARD it is to wait–for the government to process my paperwork, for the agency to come and make sure my home is “fit for a child”, for a referral that gives me a picture of my daughter. I am proud to be part of this club…and I cannot wait to be that blended family that stands out!